Dr.
Karin Jäckel on Deutschlandradio on September 20, 2010 Parent-child relationships are older than any man-made law and any state guardianship. It is the natural and inviolable birthright as a human right of every child to have a mother and a father and to be protected, educated and cared for by them together.
Having to go without a parent means a serious loss for every child, one that puts a strain on body and soul. Even if the child does not consciously recognize this. At some point all children ask themselves about their own roots. Adopted children also want to get to know their biological parents because they want to know who the two people who conceived them and gave them to other people are and what genetic inheritance they carry.
Single parenthood is by no means a "model of success", as Edith Schwab, chairwoman of the "Association of Single Mothers and Fathers", wants to believe, but it is proven to be a model of failure that overwhelms mothers, forces children into psychotherapeutic treatment and drives both into fear of life and poverty - with and without financial means Maintenance of the excluded parent.
Even if single parenthood is interpreted as complete emancipation, a mother cannot be a father and a father cannot replace a mother. No single parent who excludes, hides or denies the other can fulfill the child's longing for themselves and their own family roots. Quite apart from the fact that single parenthood for children caused by exclusion usually also results in the loss of second grandparents and other relatives.
Against this background, to continue to negate the birthright of all children to both parents and to value both the parents' interests in separation and a quasi-ownership right of the mother to "her biological child" is hostile to children and causes separation wars.
It cannot be that the global research results about the almost identical propensity for violence between the sexes continue to be subordinated to the myth "woman = victim, man = perpetrator" and that children are only denied their birthright to both parents because some men become criminals and then Violence against women and/or children.
The vast majority of all fathers are willing and able to be there for their children in an attentive, caring and loving manner and to take on educational responsibility. Excluded fathers therefore fight just as unreservedly for their children, who have been taken away from them or withheld from them, as do excluded mothers. They suffer no less from the loss of children and see their children as giving them meaning in life just as mothers do.
Instead of protecting the right of all children to both parents and imposing requirements to find a common compromise in the best interests of the child, family judges follow the request of the lawyer of the child-abducting parent to grant the sole temporary right of residence. This sanctioned the rule of law of child abduction.
When I first made public the pain and despair of bullied fathers in the lives of their children in 2000, journalists gossiped about the "new sufferers" and "whiners". This mocking reaction to male vulnerability is still part of a convoluted hostility to men, such as B. is expressed in a policy paper of the SPD, which wants to achieve more humanity by overcoming the masculine.
It is time that those responsible for legislation who feel called upon to protect women and mothers finally understand and respect that women are no longer goddesses who seem to conjure up their child.
Child protection must be above any ideology and the child's right to mother and father must be guaranteed.
She is the author of numerous experience novels, non-fiction books, historical novels as well as children's and young adult books. Her main topics are historical biographies and contemporary problems such as violence and abuse in families or child abduction. Karin Jäckel is married and has three children.